How Open Should You Be About Your Abuse?
As we’ve seen in the last few weeks, speaking up, publicly, gives others permission to come forward, but it is not without consequences.
Still, in most situations, I’m of the opinion that secrecy does nothing for survivors. I only helps perpetrators continue their dirty deed.
Naturally, being silent shouldn’t be opted for if your life, or safety (or stability), would be jeopardized by coming clean.
If that’s not the case, then I recommend telling EVERYONE what happened.
At dinner parties.
Waiting in line at CVS.
While chatting with a fellow dog owner, or walking across the street from a dog park because you’re allergic
Let’s face it: We often keep our mouths shut because we believe we’re to blame for what happened.
What would happen if you let that go?
What would happen if you were no longer ashamed of what someone did TO you?
When I started blabbing, I crossed over some taboo threshold. On the other side, was fearlessness.
Check it out for yourself.
Your partner in shine.