“I feel broken.”
That’s how I felt most of my adult life. It’s how many survivors feel.
Other women—and men and transgender folks—who’ve experienced sexual violation feel whole, but aspects of our lives are damaged. We may have trouble with sexual pleasure, finding a loving partner, asking for what we want, believing in our dreams, being financially stable, or feeling fully alive.
I think these areas of growth fall under three categories—the 3 Ps.
(which includes all emotions but also acting on our truest desires)
(sexual for sure, but also the juiciness of aliveness)
(in all its manifestations)
The 3 Ps is a framework to help survivors better understand their trauma.
I’ll be blogging about each of the Ps. Posts will include common difficulties faced by survivors (in each area) and strategies for dealing with these.
My hope is that with greater knowledge, survivors can more effectively seek the kind of treatment or attention they may need.
Here’s my wish:
Using the The 3 Ps, a survivor might go from “I feel broken” to “A part of me is damaged, but I understand how to reclaim this aspect of self, and I have a great plan!”
I wish that the 3 Ps were a process—Do This, then that, and then that other thing. I’m sure you’ve wished too there was a simpler, more linear path.
Let’s expand what we know…
I don’t have the answers to your journey, but I’d to help you decipher it better.
For starters, I believe that psychotherapy, which is largely viewed as the ONLY way to recover, and which IS necessary and often wonderful, is also not enough.
What I’m proposing is a more expansive understanding of the struggles and triumphs of survivors.